September 15, 2008

Date Night Is A Good, Good Thing



Back when our family was brand new and the grandparents had just become grandparents, a wonderful tradition started called “Date Night“.


This was when a set of newly sleep deprived parents were allowed to pretend for two hours that they still had the energy to stare deeply into each others eyes while the grandparents used it as a regular excuse to spoil the offspring of their children without all the responsibility of dealing with the consequences.


Really, it worked for everyone involved.


And we continued this tradition from the first child until the third was born.


But by the time the fourth child came along….five years ago….the wonderful thing called “Date Night” got absorbed into our busy schedules. For five long years we would have sporadic times of uninterrupted eye contact where I would be brought back to the reality that, “Oh yeah, I’m not just a walking milk-cow with a flabby un-inflated tummy. I’m this handsome guys wife. OH MY GOSH, I’M A WOMAN!”


You’d think that my constant fertility and ability to deliver children would have reminded me of this but nothing quite makes it more clear than a good looking man staring at you over the top of a steaming cup of Starbucks coffee in a place where you don’t have to wash the mugs yourself afterwards.


So…as I was saying.


Date night fell prey to our busy lives and years went by without a regular time for Chris and I to connect.


But I’m happy to report that we have set aside a time once every week to meet for coffee…in a public place…without children….where I can pretend I’m young again, that my tummy is firm, and that this man wants to take me home and lock me in his bedroom with him.


And I’m liking it A LOT!

12 comments:

Power Up Love said...

the greatest gift...

Miriam said...

LOL :) We were talking about the marriage relationship last night over dinner with some friends, and Daniel said "It takes maintenance" and my reply (with the *wicked grin*) was, "Maintenance is FUN!".

I love it that you guys are making time for dates w/ just each other! Yay for you two!

TAMI said...

Wow! Once a week??! That's amazing! The Engineer and I have had season tickets to a local theatre company. We LOVE theatre, of course, but the real reason is so that dates get stuck on the calendar and we don't forget to have them!

Enjoy coffee with that MAN of yourse!!

Aliisa and Sundy said...

from Aliisa:
That is wonderful and so much fun. I love date nights but we dont always get them once a week. So what we started doing is I cook for my daughter and get her off to bed and then we put on some nice music, cook dinner just the two of us and then cuddle with a good movie. Its almost as good...*lol*

EEEEMommy said...

It's been far too long since we went on a date. Honestly, I can't remember...

gail said...

yes, dates are very,very good for our marriages, firm tummies or not ....

Emily said...

Our last date? ages ago.

and WHEN did you have that lovely picture of the two of you walking in formal attire? You look very blonde. :)

and you never told us how your talk went!

Terri said...

How awsome!! And I agree so so important.

You've motivated me to get on top of this too!!!

You go girl!!!

You are the kind of girl I wish lived next door :-)

We are getting over Ike here....

slowly getting back to blogging...

-Terri

Halfmoon Girl said...

we.suck.at.going.on.dates. Bad us. Now that our oldest can babysit, we are doing slightly better. It is so important that it makes me annoyed at myself when we don't do it.

40winkzzz said...

So the only *bad* thing about that scenario is that you are having your dates in a "public" setting. Wouldn't a private setting be much more, um, fun? ;-)

Randi said...

My hubs and I have done this for a long time and we love it. It is so nice to get out on a regular basis and be "Craig and Randi" instead of "Daddy and Mommy". I do think that we need to try something new though,because dinner and a movie is getting a little stale. I am trying to think of a new idea for this weekend....hopefully something good!

Great post!

~Rhen @yestheyareallmine said...

Amen sister!!

Mr. Muscles and I have recently found a couple we would trust to watch our kids and they are game. Oh my word! To watch all 6 at that!

Yay for you two and your time to gaze longingly at each other. I am going to have to go practice that in the mirror. :)

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